I’m ready to have a female president and a first gentleman, but I’m also ready to live in a world where us women are not constantly belittled, “othered,” and stereotyped as emotionally unstable beings who would never work well under pressure.
Emotions are not a female trait, they are human nature.
Our political leaders should show emotions. Empathy leads to inspiration which leads to passion, and passionate people change the world.
Hils for pres? I think yes!
Let’s move to the Capitol
If you have read or watched the Hunger Games, you know that Katniss Everdeen’s living conditions are not the greatest. There is no social or economic mobility. Food is hard to come by, and they have limited room for freedoms. The capitol on the other hand, is a luxury galore. People care about altering their bodies to look like cats or butterflies, they watch children kill each other and call it entertainment, and they also throw parties where they eat until they are full, throw up, and eat until they are full, throw up again, and continue to eat.
No one really mentions it, but I’m sure the Capitol citizens have access to wonderful education and careers. They have enough privileges that allow them to live without worrying about their next meal or their children having to fight for their death.
If you were Katniss Everdeen, and you knew about the Capitol, the place where your family could be safe and healthy, and there was a way to get there, would you go? Even if it was illegal and there was a chance for a fatal accident to take place, there are multiple brave hearts that would enroll on such quest for a better life. We want to be free, happy, and full—its human nature.
For some Americans, I’m sure it is much easier to support Katniss Everdeen than Noemi Alvarez Quillay, a little girl who was traveling to America from Ecuador illegally to be reunited with her parents. Now I can’t say she didn’t have food security or access to quality education, but for some people, that is the case, and they view migrating to this country as an alternative for a better life.
How is this media related?
This is a fairly political issue, but I’m not here to tell you to be pro-immigration reform but to think about the way immigrants are talked about. In the news, as well as other media outlets, we often hear the term “illegal aliens.” This makes phrase makes these people sound dangerous because they are are illegal (criminal), but it also dehumanizes them by “othering” them because they are aliens (unfamiliar).
I really just want to put a face to the people who are continuously referred to as “illegal aliens,” because many of them are good people who are looking to work for a better life. They are mothers, fathers, daughters, song, brothers, and sisters. They are families; they are people. So, next time you want to have a intelligent discussion about immigration, remember that the politically correct term is “undocumented immigrants.”
The first step to abusing people’s human rights is by making them seem unhuman; don’t be part of the process, stop the process.
Just as the LA Clippers are getting ready to suit up for a promising post season game, Clippers Owner Donald Sterling was busted on tape making a host of horrible racist comments. Recorded by his girlfriend–a 20-something woman of color–Sterling ranted for nearly 10 minutes , including these fine comments curated by TMZ:
“It bothers me a lot that you want to broadcast that you’re associating with black people. Do you have to?” (3:30)
“You can sleep with [black people]. You can bring them in, you can do whatever you want. The little I ask you is not to promote it on that … and not to bring them to my games.” (5:15)
“I’m just saying, in your lousy f******* Instagrams, you don’t have to have yourself with, walking with black people.” (7:45)
Thankfully the officials at the NBA promise to get to the bottom of things with an investigation–and even promise…
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You know what the cruelest part of the Hunger Games is? Forcing children into an arena everyone knows will take their lives away.
Fortunately, in the real world we love children and most of us can agree that children need to be protected, which is why, today, disappointment fills this post. Robert H. Richards IV was NOT convicted after admitting he raped his three-year-old daughter.
The oxford definition of prison is “a building in which people are legally held as a punishment for crimes they have committed or while awaiting trial.” Raping and molesting children is illegal, so… why is prison not suitable for this rapist? According to Judge Jan Jurden, this rapist would benefit more from a Sex Offenders rehabilitation program; apparently prison deals are more appropriate for other people who need to be separated from our society, like drug addicts.
If the rapists wasn’t a rich heir, would he still be considered unfit for prison?
How is this related to media?
This guy is a rapists, by making an exemption simply because he is a wealthy, heterosexual male paints an unfortunate picture about our government: we treat people differently based on wealth and race, no matter how bad the crime may be.
If this rapists was a middle aged male of color, and wasn’t as rich as this guy, would the judge have found him “unfit” for prison too?
I would also like to bring to your attention that it is perfectly legal to create pornography that insinuates rape, that is, a father having sex with his own child or someone who is underage. Also, pornography featuring virtual adults having sex with virtual children is a thing. A legal thing, all made possible in the name of “freedom of speech.” So when such violent media is perfectly legal in our country, are we really surprised when fathers rape their daughters and get away with it? We can’t possibly expect this kind of media to exist and not wonder where the demand is coming from.
I love the Boston Marathon for all that it inspires. I love my city for all of its strength.
Predators in the Arena
A few days ago I was on Facebook and came across a link a few people had shared. The link was to a blog titled “Black Girls Are Easy,” which I think aims to give girls advice on dating and what makes them “wifey material.” The entire blog speaks of relationships through a patriarchal, sexist lens, insisting that women are responsible for the fate of their relationships. Apparently, if I man only wants to have sex with a woman with no intensions of a serious relationship or marriage, it’s due to a lack of female integrity and capability. Every argument in this blog is grounded on women-hate and lack of male responsibility, and it is alarming to see people share it because they agree with it, not out of rage and disapproval.
Here are two highlights and my two cents. (Quick side note: The following quotes are filled with grammatical errors and slurs. By no means is any of this my own words; I simply wanted to use direct quotes for a better discussion).
“Men love pussy, but we do not marry Pussy. A man may show Pussy off to his friends. He might buy Pussy gifts. Occasionally Pussy gets to come out of the house and get treated for dinner. Pussy even gets pregnant and becomes the Baby Mama. But he NEVER EVER marries Pussy. All men see women as Pussy initially, but after a few conversations we can decide if she’s more.”
Let’s redirect responsibility in this scenario. Bringing human life into this world is a male and female commitment. Here “slut-shaming” the “baby mama” is nothing but a sad excuse to avoid paternal responsibilities. They’re called condoms, and they are a great investment.
“There are more important things than who Chris Brown is fucking. If I wanted to date a woman with the life experience of a 17 year old I would have become a gym teacher or a stepfather. Stop being afraid to ask questions, reseal things you don’t understand, have a desire to be the best dressed at the part and the most interesting.”
Women are not the problem, the male socialization to appreciate sex and only sex and its normalization is the problem. Why have we set the standards for male self-respect so low? Men are not sexual animals who have brains with no capability of self-control, but we have normalized this notion to the point that most people miss and are unalarmed by rapists statements like “if I wanted to date a woman with the life experience of a 17 year old I would have become a gym teach or a stepfather.” This kind of statement turns women into mere vaginas, nothing else; and if that isn’t bad enough, it portrays and accepts men as sexual predators who see no boundaries to what vaginas they demand access to, not even age.
It’s called rape culture ladies & gentlemen, and agreeing to this way of thinking perpetuates the problem.
The Street Games
In the Hunger Games world, after a tribute becomes a victor, she/he becomes the most wanted person in the city, sexually. They basically have no say, really, and their life is never really theirs after the Games.
Last week, my roommate was waiting for the cross walk sign to go on when a guy walked up to her to say she was beautiful, challenged her decline of a phone number, and after indicating she wanted to be left alone, he proceeded to force a hug.
The other day I was walking home when a guy walked up to me to tell me I was beautiful and he wanted my number. I declined, and his response was “oh, it must because you have a boyfriend. Damn, ya’ll must have fun.” I was grossed out, but did not feel safe enough to react as I normally would (it was getting dark out and not many people were around).
Sexual harassment has been normalized to such extent that is just another part of life all women deal with. Ask your girlfriends, I’m sure they have plenty of stories.
Violence against women starts in the streets, with the name-calling and whistling. It then escalates to blaming the same women that are being harassed for walking down the wrong street at the wrong time, wearing the “wrong” clothes, or being too drunk. We love to hate women. We love to watch them get raped and say she secretly wanted it, that she changed her mind, or she just wants money. We are torturing our women instead of defending their rights. Meanwhile, we are turning our men into sexual predators whose only goal in life is to have sex.
We all deserve to walk down the street peacefully, and we sure as hell deserve to not be looked up and down and commented on in a sexual manner. No means no, and whether or not I have a boyfriend should be irrelevant; leave me alone because I’m asking you to leave me alone, not because I went from being “up for grabs” to “taken.”
I’m tired of men thinking it is their God-given right to have a girl’s number or to harass women orally. I’m tired of men feeling entitled to women’s bodies.
Perhaps what I’m saying is clearer when we switch roles and look at the bigger picture a little different. So take a second, click on the link below, and watch this video. We all deserve to feel like humans, not victors.
Tributes lose all rights to privacy the minute their names are called in the reaping. Their every move is overseen, and once in the arena, they are recorded at all times. People even sneak camera phones up female tributes’ skirts to take pictures-oh, wait.
Women’s rights to privacy were tested this Wednesday, March 6th, 2014, when a Massachusetts court ruled that Michael Robertson, age 32, did not violate the law when he took an “upskirt” picture of a woman while riding the MBTA. In order for the “Peeping Tom” law to be applicable, the person must be “partially nude” exposing what we know as “private parts” (genitals, buttocks, breast, etc).
This decision was infuriating and overtly offensive, but this Thursday March 6, 2014, Massachusetts officials had their agendas straight and drafted a bill to ban upskirting. Governor Deval Patrick has already agreed to sign, making all of us here in Boston wicked proud.
I am wicked excited and proud of my city/state for standing up for my rights, but I must point out that where there is a will, there is a way. So dear law makers, no excuses from now on, taking your sweet time is clearly optional, so try to make the magic happen a little faster.
If you want to upskirt here in Boston, may the odds be ever in your favor, because now we have a law that is just as good as berries.